When it comes to anal sex, there’s a common belief that it can be messy, painful, or uncomfortable.
But the reality is, if done properly, it can be a very pleasurable experience. If you're willing to try it, you might find it a fun addition to your sexual repertoire!
Let me answer the main question going through your mind…Does it hurt?
This is one of the most common concerns people have when it comes to trying anal sex, and the truth is, if you start too fast or too large, it can get uncomfortable. However, it definitely doesn't have to hurt - and there are ways to make it pleasurable, not painful.
Here are some tips to help you enjoy the world of anal sex and I can assure you, you will be asking to do it again and again.
Let’s get the butt clean!
It is not rocket science that if you are going to stimulate an area of the body that is normally for doing a poo, its best to make sure you are clean. Enjoy a nice bath or shower and give your butt a good clean. Many people today also use an anal douche. An anal douche completely clears out your anal passage – so there are no fears or worries – you will be completely clean. This can be very important for those trying anal for the first time and especially for women.
Make sure you are completely relaxed and with someone you trust.
Before getting into the swing of things, make sure that your body is relaxed, and that you’re not feeling tense or nervous. Anal should be enjoyable experience so, be sure to relax breathe have a glass of wine to calm the nerves if need be.
Being with some you trust is a must for the first time. Being with someone you trust will take away most of the fear factor.
Lube up – this is essential!
The number one thing that will keep anal play fun and comfortable is using a good quality anal lubricant, as the anus doesn’t produce its own lubrication in the same way the vagina does. We have a wide range of lubricants to choose from – I would suggest a silicone-based lubricant for first time anal play.
Start small – bigger is NOT better to start.
First time trying anal sex, it makes sense to start off by using your lover's fingers or a beginner’s butt plug to start to widen the anal passage. Start with one finger and work your way up to three or a medium size butt plug.
Make sure you keep applying lubrication, so the area is always lubricious!
Have the receiver guide the penetration.
While you might think the receiver takes a more passive role, have them guide the penetration to their satisfaction. This can feel empowering as they get to control the speed, depth, and angle of penetration in allowing their body to feel good.
Great Positions for anal sex
Three of the best positions for first-time anal sex include:
Girl-on-top: This position allows the female partner (or person being penetrated) to control speed and depth of penetration, which is extremely important, especially for those new to anal play.
Doggy Style: This classic allows the person doing the penetrating easy access to the anus, although things can get deep very quickly so do keep things controlled and take it slow.
Spooning: This is another great pick for anal play beginners. This gives you shared control of your movements and adds an extra touch of intimacy, which may help you relax as well.
Clean up time
After every time you have anal sex, its important to clean up. Make sure you clean your anus and the toys and body parts used for penetration. I would also recommend using a toy cleaner to clean your toys. This will keep them in top condition and ready for your next anal playtime.
A nice way to end a great anal experience is to jump into the shower together and wash each other down also it can be especially nice to reassure your partner that you enjoyed the experience.
So, anal doesn’t have to be scary! If you're prepped, comfortable, and equipped with the right mindset and the right tools, you might be surprised to find a world of pleasure waiting for you.